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Using Condoms: Safer Sex Is Sexy!

We all know condoms are sexy, because they prevent the transmission of STDs and HIV, which are not sexy at all.

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) states that: “Latex condoms, when used consistently and correctly, are highly effective in preventing the sexual transmission of HIV, the virus that causes AIDS [and] other sexually transmitted diseases (STDs).”

But here are some more sexy tips to make sure you are using condoms correctly as well as the different types you can use. This article is about male condoms, but there are also female condoms and dentals dams that can be used for penetrative or oral sex on ladies.

Boy Condoms

The basic male condom is a thin, often clear stretchy tube (insert penis here). Male condoms come in various different sizes, shapes, textures, flavors, lubed and un-lubed. Most are made of latex, but for people with latex allergies there are also condoms made of medical-grade polyurethane or polyisoprene. However, avoid Natural Lambskin condoms if you want to avoid STDs as they only protect against getting pregnant.

Size Matters!

In the case of male condoms, choosing the right size is very important. Condoms sizes vary in length from 3” to 11.9”. Rule of dick: If the condom is too tight it might break, and if it is too loose and it may slip off during sex. Not cool.

Add Sensation

One of the biggest complaints about using condoms is that users lose sensitivity with their hot sexy package enveloped in latex. However, there are extra-thin condoms made for guys who find regular condoms too thick. Comfort fit or Extra Head Room condoms provide more movement around the head of the penis which also aids in added stimulation for sensation junkies. And, for girls, there are lots of condoms that will turn his dick into a French tickler with various textures like ribbed and studded to give you added pleasure. For guys and gals, there are sensation play condoms that have stimulating lubrication that can cool, tingle or heat up.

Flavored Condoms

For fellatio, there are lots of flavored condoms that can make oral sex much more tasty. However, I would not recommend using flavored condoms for penetration as many contain glycerin (sugars) that are not compatible with the vagina’s flora. And, while they may not have come out with a bacon flavored condom yet, there is bacon flavored lube which is compatible with latex condoms. Finally!

So condoms don’t have to be boring. Think of them as an additional pleasure object to include in your arsenal of sexy play toys.

To Lubricate or Not, That is the Question

Lubricated or non-lubricated? Which is best? Well that really depends on the person and the type of sex you are having. If using condoms for oral sex, lubrication might taste gross, unless they are flavored. However, for vaginal and anal sex, lubricated condoms can be ideal, especially if you don’t happen to carry a bottle of lube around with you. Beware, however of Nonoxynol-9 (or N-9). It is a spermicide that is used to aid in preventing unwanted pregnancies, and is sometimes added to lubricated condoms. However, Nonoxynol-9 has been shown to irritate the cells in the vagina or rectum causing tiny tears in the mucus membranes which could potentially increase the risk of getting an STD or an infection, including increased chances of getting the HIV virus. Check labels and avoid condoms with N-9.

Condom Tips
  • Check the expiry date of your condom as they break down over time and become less effective. Stored correctly, non-lubricated condoms should last 5 years.
  • Store condoms in a cool, dry place (not in your wallet).   Specially made condom cases like Durex’s Love Case are perfect for storing condoms in your purse.
  • Only use water-based or silicone personal lubricants that are specifically made for sexual intercourse. Do not use oil-based lubricants as they can break down the condom and cause bacterial infections in the vagina.
  • Do not use teeth, fingernails or scissors to open a condom as you could puncture it with holes making it useless. That is why they have the zigzag seals: KISS!
  • Use a condom each and every time you have sexual intercourse with someone you are not “fluid-bonded” with during vaginal, anal sex and male oral sex (fellatio) from start to finish to protect against STDs. The most common mistake people make is to use a condom AFTER sexual activity has already started.
  • Never reuse a condom. You would think this is obvious, but people still do it. So use a new unopened condom every time you have sex regardless whether it is with the same person or someone else. If, for some reason your remove the condom before ejaculation, use a new one before continuing intercourse. Condoms are cheap. Your health is priceless.
  • Do not use the same condom with multiple partners. Again, the same goes. Use a new condom with each new partner even if you are having sex with multiple partners at once.
  • Do not put a condom on inside-out as it is more likely to tear or slip during intercourse. This is one of the most common mistakes when using a condom. The condom rolled up rim should be on the outside and should fit over the head of the penis like a little cap.
  • If the condom breaks, withdraw immediately and throw away. Use a new condom. Obs!
How to Put on a Condom Correctly

If you don’t put on a condom correctly, chances are it is not going to work properly to protect you. This is the number ONE mistake most people make with condoms. Apply a small amount of lubricant inside the condom at the tip to prevent breakage. If the guy is uncircumcised, pull back the foreskin when putting on the condom. This will prevent pulling of the foreskin, will aid in sensitivity and help create a proper fit.

Place the rolled-up condom (rolled rim out) over the erect penis head, gently pinching the reservoir tip to remove any air. If the condom doesn’t have a reservoir tip, leave a half-inch space for ejaculate.

Hold the tip of the condom, while gently unrolling the entire condom down the length of the penis to the base, smoothing out air bubbles as you go to maintain a proper fit and avoid tearing during penetration. Use a small amount of lubricant to apply to the tip of the condom on the outside to aid in penetration and to avoid breakage.

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Removing a Condom Correctly

Removing a condom properly is just as important as putting it on properly and is one of the most common mistakes when using a condom. After ejaculation before the penis becomes soft, hold the condom at the base to withdraw the penis, ensuring the condom doesn’t slip off. Gently peel the used condom down and remove from the penis head, keeping the semen inside.

Sexy Condom Trick—Putting a Condom on with Your Mouth!

I once saw Midori put a condom on a dildo with her mouth at a workshop and it was uber sexy. Here’s how you can learn to do this yourself.

If you don’t own a dildo, use a banana for practice. Make sure to apply a generous amount of lip gloss to your mouth and use a non-lubricated condom for this trick.

Open the condom and place with the reservoir tip facing in, into your mouth, lips slightly parted, with the ring just in front of your teeth. Open your mouth into an “O” shape and place the head of the banana in the condom, in your mouth. Use your tongue to apply pressure to the condom to the roof of your mouth so it doesn’t fill with air when “going down”. Use your lips to roll the condom down the shaft. Make sure your teeth don’t scrape the condom or tear it. Finally, smooth your lips up and down the shaft to squeeze excess air out of the condom. Do this nice a slow and sexy.

Now try it with a real penis.

Not convinced you can do this? Check out this video with sexpert, Dr. Sue Johanson. If she can do it, so can you!

Sources:

Condom Diagram- https://www.fphandbook.org/downloads

Sexy Condom image- Image copyright Theos at Shutterstock

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