The Sexual Health Expo: Getting ‘Hi’ In NYC

Sex Ed March 27, 2018

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It was a full weekend of nothing but SEXY SEX!

I was thrilled to be joining Drs. Ava Cadell and Hernando Chaves for the first sexual health expo of my new career as a Doctor of Sexology. This expo is redefining the rules of the road for Sex In The City and I loved being a part of this positive change.

The speakers were classy & inspiring; the vendors creative with a plethora of sexy products in hand; and the crowd curious and wildly enthusiastic. Who wouldn’t be having fun with stimulating views like this!

My agenda was multifactorial (I’m a big fan of multiples). As the newest budding sex doctor I was thrilled to also be the sex educator for the newest personal massager ready for launch, the Hi.

In the midst of earning my doctorate I was introduced to Steve McGough, the creative brilliance behind the newest technology in a personal massager called the “Hi”.

My personal experience with the Hi was rather funny. I had to shoo Steve out of my room because I’m a bit shy about public orgasming (I’m working on that). Once alone with my weekend roommate I was curious (as I am with any new toy) about how it would feel through my clothing, as it’s intended to be used. So I sat in a chair, I sat on the floor, all the while wondering if Steve was waiting at my door to see if I liked it or not. (Not in a “pervy” way, but the “scientist/creator and his art” way).

Still feeling a little stage fright, I retreated to my bedroom area with more privacy. Once I was able to relax and enjoy all the magical sensations I was mesmerized by the array of thrills. The percussion balls tapping at various speeds against my clitoris and my low abdomen and the vibration wand sending jolts of delight through my pelvis and spine. The impending orgasm was happening in so many places my mind couldn’t find them all. So using my yoga breathing I simply surrendered and experienced a very new and deeply pleasurable orgasm. I sent my husband a selfie right after – not for public use – but let’s just say he asked if he’d been replaced.

The interesting thing is, while it is a great and releasing experience, it is still not the human connection. I stand strong that no machine, on any level, can ever replace human touch. However, I’m anxious to try using the Hi with my husband at the same time – now that’s the best of both worlds.

The SHE Expo also opened the door to meeting some of the top Sex Positive Professionals in the field. Spending quality time my mentor and dear friend, Dr. Ava Cadell (who is also the SHE Sexpert Of the Year 2015) & Dr. Hernando Chaves was more than enough to fill my dance card, and yet I was double blessed with being able to see old and new friends Dr. Jess O’Reilly & Dr. Emily Morse in action during their presentations and spend time catching up after hours. They are all such inspirations in the field of sex positive education. Here is an entertaining excerpt from Dr. Ava Cadell’s seminar called “Sex & Disabilities or Limitations” where she persuades four participants to describe a sexual fantasy!

One of the other reasons for being in NYC was to meet with the amazing Dr. Debra Ottenheimer (Gynecology Practice ) and Stacey Futterman, PT MPT who are involved with the Clitoraid Foundation. This foundation helps young women whom are victims of FGM (Female Genital Mutilation) receive education, therapy, and reconstructive surgery if desired.

To better educate us, Dr. Ottenheimer showed us photos of FGM and the repairs done; Many women are cut during infancy – some in early childhood and some in their teens. The tip of the Clitoris is removed and often the procedure includes removal of inner and outer labia, and the labia are then sewn together. As a prior OB/GYN Nurse myself, this got my attention and I have no doubt my work will gravitate towards this area in the near future. The World Health Organization estimates that between 100 and 140 million girls and women worldwide have been subjected to on of the first three types of FGM. We have work to do.

Steve McGough, (the creative mastermind behind the Hi) and I were there to show the Hi Massager and discuss it’s use with the women who had FGM, and who, up until now, had not been able to experience sexual pleasure, let alone orgasm.

Dr. Ottenheimer trying the Hi out on her abdomen (which for women who have ever expereinced any abdominal surgery can feel wonderful and offer a deep relaxation as well as pleasure.

Stacey Futterman, PT MPT has a busy practice in Pelvic Floor Healing and found the Hi to be quite amazing and can’t wait to use it in her practice.

Leaving Dr. Ottenheimer and taking a quick Uber ride up to Madison Ave, we made it in time for our meeting with the Iconic American Sex Educator of our time, Betty Dodson, an American sex educator, author, and artist.

Betty greeted us with the door ajar and a note stuck on the door, which read, “Come in and Holler”! The shoe rack in the entryway made it obvious to remove our shoes before entering her Madison Ave apartment. We were soon greeted by the small vibrant woman with a sassy hair style (we admired each other’s Do) who easily passed out hugs like long lost friends. She instantly put us at ease and welcomed us into her spacious and beautiful home (of 52 years).

Our original meeting was to last 20 minutes – but we were having such fun we were welcomed for over two hours of chatting, story telling and of course Betty trying out the new Hi massager herself. She tried it standing, sitting and lying on the floor. She asked that I not show those photos publically. All in all she loved the device for many reasons, and mostly when I used it on her shoulders and neck for her. She stated it would be a perfect device for partner play – and wanted a holder to be used for those with “aging hands”. (Betty just turned 87)

It was such fun to hear her stories about the sexual revolution(s) and how people are now calling her “an over night success”. Betty’s energy is impressive and she claims to be in her prime and is now fully enjoying the career she has fought so long to achieve. She is being recognized now for the powerful work she has done for over 50 years with interviews and speaking engagements around the world. In fact, Betty has been asked to deliver the Keynote Speech for the Sex Educators Conference in Iceland – she continues to change the world.

What did I learn from my two hours with the infamous Betty Dodson? Never stop having orgasms and at least one orgasm (or two) a day has to be the best-undocumented fountain of youth! Her mind is sharp as a tack – but also look at her skin! Amazing!